Many people today are chasing after the wind. We want more – more money, more influence, more comfort, more control. We throw ourselves into our jobs, our routines, our ambitions. We wonder why we feel so dissatisfied. At some point, most of us ask, “Where can I find happiness, joy, meaning, and hope amid the chaos and frustration of everyday life?”
What we often fail to realize is that fulfillment doesn’t come from simply achieving milestones. It doesn’t come from the nicer car, the dream house, the perfect spouse, or the ideal job. Those things can be part of a good life, but they don’t define it. As Earl Nightingale so insightfully said, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal.” That’s where satisfaction lives. It’s not in the achievement alone, but in the purposeful journey toward something meaningful.
And yet, the road to that kind of success is littered with obstacles like delays, discouragements, and dead ends. It’s never as easy as it sounds in the seminars or motivational posters and slogans. If you’ve ever felt like your goals are just out of reach no matter how hard you try, take heart. You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. You’re just on the real road – not the shortcut.
Rethinking The Process
With each passing year, I find myself reevaluating many of the clichés I used to share with my seminar attendees without a second thought. Like many management trainers, I’ve been guilty of offering clever little statements like, “A goal is just a dream with a deadline,” or “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” While catchy, these phrases often ignore the complex realities people face when they try to achieve something worthwhile.
Goals aren’t achieved simply because you set them. Plans don’t automatically succeed just because you wrote them down. At the end of the day, success boils down to what I’ve called the “do-do principle.” Or more honestly – the “doo-doo principle,” if you catch my drift. 😊 That’s because in the real world, chasing dreams gets messy. It’s not just about planning; it’s about pressing through all the stuff – the crap that gets in the way.
Let’s walk through the process of pursuing your dream – but this time, let’s do it with both eyes open to the challenges you’re bound to face along the way.
Dream
Everything begins with a dream – something you’re passionate about, something that stirs your spirit. This is the embryonic stage. Ask yourself: “Where do I want to go?” But don’t stop there. Ask also: “Why do I want to go there?”
The answer to why is what will fuel you when your motivation wears thin, when obstacles mount, and when the critics around you tell you to give up.
Your dream must be more than just wanting to escape your current circumstances. A dream based only on avoidance is not forward-looking. On his show Shifting Gears, Tim Allen told his daughter, “Focus on where you want to go, not on where you don’t want to be. Stop looking in the rearview mirror.” That’s good advice for all of us.
A compelling dream looks ahead. It paints a picture of a future worth working for. It draws you forward instead of just pushing you away from something undesirable or painful.
Decide
Having a dream isn’t enough. You must decide to pursue it. That decision must include a deep belief that it’s possible and worthwhile.
We often underestimate the power of decision. I heard recently that the average adult makes around 30,000 decisions every day. What to eat. What to wear. What to say or not say. Most of these are small, almost automatic. But the big decisions are value-based, reflecting our personal values and ethics. They reveal our character and shape our future.
Big decisions are more than logistical choices – they are value statements. They say something about who we are and what matters most to us. They also require wisdom. And wisdom, as it turns out, is more than just insight and experience.
There’s an old saying: “Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from other people’s mistakes.” I’d add that truly wise people surround themselves with mentors and trusted voices who can help them avoid pitfalls before they fall in.
Use your knowledge and experience, but don’t isolate yourself. Tap into the collective wisdom of your circle of advisors, confidants, and mentors. No one reaches their dream alone.
Delays
One of the first obstacles you’ll face after deciding to chase your dream is delay. Even if you have a five-year plan, the world didn’t get the memo. The market changes. People let you down. Life happens.
Your plan will likely require time, money, energy, and sacrifice. You may have to give up stability. You may need to retrain, relocate, or rethink everything. All of that may take longer than you expect.
This is where the word grit comes into play. Our pastor defines grit as resolve and determination. It’s the inner steel that keeps you going when the timeline falls apart and the resources run dry.
Don’t let delays trick you into thinking you’re off-course. Delays are part of the journey, not a sign of failure. But without grit, delays become excuses. And excuses are dream-killers.
Difficulties
If delays are frustrating, difficulties are downright discouraging. Critics show up – many are surprisingly unexpected from your circle of friends, relatives, and associates. Unanticipated costs arise. You lose momentum. You question everything.
Most people grow up hearing things like, “Nobody said life was fair,” or “Nobody said it would be easy.” And while those sayings are true, they’re rarely helpful. When you’re in the middle of the storm, you don’t want platitudes – you want perspective.
Here’s some perspective from my dad: “If time or money can fix it, it’s not a problem. It’s just a bump in the road.” In other words, difficulties are part of the process. They’re inconvenient, sometimes painful, but rarely final.
In the same way that grit builds resolve, difficulties build perseverance. Think of them as weights in a gym. If you avoid them, you stay weak. If you face them, you grow stronger.
Dead Ends
This is the toughest part of the journey – the moment you feel like quitting. The dream seems farther away than ever. You’re tired, broke, disappointed, maybe even embarrassed.
Here’s the irony; this feeling often comes right before a breakthrough.
There’s a story about a man who spent hours trying to chop down a tree that was blocking his path. Eventually, exhausted and frustrated, he gave up and walked away. Moments later, a gust of wind came and toppled the tree, but he never saw it fall.
You may be that close.
One of my clients sent me an excerpt of one of her journal entries during a particularly dark season in her life. It’s raw and real. And it’s exactly what many people feel but don’t say out loud.
It doesn’t matter if my heart is breaking, if disappointment is weighing me down, or if exhaustion makes even the smallest tasks feel impossible, life keeps going. The world doesn’t slow down to give me time. I have to make the time and adjust.
Responsibilities don’t disappear just because I need a moment to breathe. So, I keep moving forward, even when every part of me is begging for rest.
No one prepares you for this. We grow up believing struggle is temporary, that things get better in predictable ways. But adulthood teaches us that survival sometimes means showing up when you feel empty. Smiling when your heart is heavy. And pushing forward when you’d rather fall apart.
And yet, we endure. Not because it’s easy. Not because we’re ready. But because we have no other choice. And in that quiet persistence, we discover a strength we never knew we had. – Anonymous
That’s real. That’s what it looks like to push through the dead ends.
Final Thoughts
Sometimes, the direction you start in isn’t the one that gets you to your destination. Dreams evolve. Opportunities shift. Roadblocks appear. The key is adaptability.
Changing direction doesn’t mean failure, it means growth. When a door closes, don’t just stand there knocking until your knuckles bleed. Try the window. Check the side entrance. Or build a new door entirely.
The detour might be where you find your true potential.
So, keep going. Stay open. Stay gritty. Stay honest with yourself. And above all, keep pressing forward— even when it’s hard, even when it’s slow, even when it feels like nobody understands.
Because the truth is, nobody said it would be easy. But if it’s worth it, it’s worth enduring for it.
You’ve got this!
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About the author — Thom Tschetter has served our industry for over four decades. His article topics come from our readers and Thom’s years as a speaker, writer, certified arbitrator, business consultant, and his own in-the-trenches experiences. Thom owned a chain of award-winning transmission shops in Washington State, and ATRA presented him with a Lifetime Achievement Award for his years of training for the transmission industry.
